\u00dcsk\u00fcdar \u00dcniversitesi NP\u0130STANBUL Hastanesi Klinik Psikolog Aybeniz Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m, anne-baba ve \u00e7ocuk aras\u0131ndaki ili\u015fkinin sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 temeller \u00fczerine kurulmas\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7ocu\u011fun geli\u015fiminde belirleyici rol oynad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n
Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m, g\u00fcvenli ba\u011flanman\u0131n \u00e7ocu\u011fa ko\u015fulsuz kabul ve g\u00fcven duygusunun hissettirilmesiyle g\u00fc\u00e7lendirilebilece\u011fini belirterek, ebeveynlerin \u00e7ocuk kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda farkl\u0131 ve \u00e7eli\u015fkili tutumlar sergilemesinin s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n zorlanmas\u0131na ve \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmal\u0131 ileti\u015fime yol a\u00e7abilece\u011fine dikkat \u00e7ekti.<\/p>\n
Ba\u011flanma \u00e7ocu\u011fa g\u00fcven duygusu kazand\u0131r\u0131yor<\/strong><\/p>\n Anne ve \u00e7ocuk ili\u015fkisinde en \u00f6nemli unsurlardan birinin ba\u011flanma oldu\u011funu ifade eden Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m, ba\u011flanman\u0131n duygusal y\u00f6n\u00fc g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir s\u00fcre\u00e7 oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n \u00c7ocu\u011fun korktu\u011funda ya da kendisini g\u00fcvensiz hissetti\u011finde ba\u011fland\u0131\u011f\u0131 ki\u015fiyi arad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 belirten Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m, bu ki\u015finin varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7ocukta rahatlama sa\u011flad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ifade etti.<\/p>\n Ba\u011flanman\u0131n \u00e7ocukluk d\u00f6neminde de devam etti\u011fine i\u015faret eden Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m, \u00e7ocu\u011fun bireysel ad\u0131mlar atarken zaman zaman geri d\u00f6n\u00fcp bak\u0131m veren ki\u015finin yan\u0131nda olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 kontrol etmesinin bu s\u00fcrecin bir par\u00e7as\u0131 oldu\u011funu kaydetti.<\/p>\n Ko\u015fulsuz kabul g\u00fcvenli ba\u011flanmay\u0131 g\u00fc\u00e7lendiriyor<\/strong><\/p>\n G\u00fcvenli ba\u011flanman\u0131n korunmas\u0131 ve g\u00fc\u00e7lendirilmesinin \u00f6nemine de\u011finen Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m, \u00e7ocukla oyun oynamak, sevgi dolu bir ses tonu kullanmak, onun yan\u0131nda olmak ve tercihlerine uygun \u015fekilde kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k vermenin ba\u011f\u0131 g\u00fc\u00e7lendirdi\u011fini s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n \u00c7ocu\u011fun her ko\u015fulda anne, baba ya da bak\u0131m veren ki\u015finin yan\u0131nda oldu\u011funu bilmesinin kendisini g\u00fcvende hissetmesini sa\u011flad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 belirten Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m, ko\u015fulsuz kabul\u00fcn sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 geli\u015fim a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan \u00f6nemli oldu\u011funu vurgulad\u0131.<\/p>\n \u00c7ocu\u011fa karar s\u00fcre\u00e7lerinde s\u00f6z hakk\u0131 verilmeli<\/strong><\/p>\n Ebeveyn tutumlar\u0131n\u0131n ge\u00e7mi\u015f y\u0131llara g\u00f6re de\u011fi\u015fti\u011fini ifade eden Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerinin ve isteklerinin dikkate al\u0131nd\u0131\u011f\u0131 daha demokratik bir yakla\u015f\u0131m\u0131n geli\u015fti\u011fini s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n Anne ve babalar\u0131n se\u00e7enekleri belirleyen taraf olabilece\u011fini ancak \u00e7ocu\u011fun da karar s\u00fcre\u00e7lerinde s\u00f6z hakk\u0131 bulundu\u011funu bilmesinin geli\u015fimini olumlu etkiledi\u011fini belirtti.<\/p>\n \u00d6nemli olan uzun s\u00fcre de\u011fil, nitelikli zaman<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00c7al\u0131\u015fan ebeveynlerin \u00e7ocuklar\u0131yla yeterince vakit ge\u00e7irme konusunda zaman zaman g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fck ya\u015fayabildi\u011fini ifade eden Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m, birlikte ge\u00e7irilen s\u00fcrenin uzunlu\u011fundan \u00e7ok niteli\u011finin \u00f6nemli oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m, ebeveynlerin telefon veya ba\u015fka i\u015flerle ilgilenmeden g\u00fcnl\u00fck 15-20 dakika dahi olsa t\u00fcm dikkatlerini \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na vermelerinin, \u00e7ocu\u011fun kendisini de\u011ferli hissetmesine katk\u0131 sa\u011flayabilece\u011fini belirtti.<\/p>\n Sorumluluk k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015flarda kazand\u0131r\u0131lmal\u0131<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00c7ocuklara sorumluluk verilmesinin k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015flarda ba\u015flamas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini vurgulayan Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m, \u00f6zellikle ortaokul ve lise d\u00f6neminde s\u00fcrekli \u201c\u00d6devini yapt\u0131n m\u0131?\u201d veya \u201cDersine \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u201d gibi uyar\u0131lar\u0131n tart\u0131\u015fmaya neden olabilece\u011fini s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n \u00c7ocu\u011fun ya\u015f\u0131na uygun sorumluluklar\u0131 erken d\u00f6nemde kazanmas\u0131n\u0131n ilerleyen y\u0131llarda daha ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131z hareket etmesini kolayla\u015ft\u0131raca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ifade etti.<\/p>\n Anne ve baba ortak tutum sergilemeli<\/strong><\/p>\n Ebeveynlerin ayn\u0131 konuda farkl\u0131 kararlar vermesinin \u00e7ocuk a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan \u00e7eli\u015fkili bir ortam olu\u015fturdu\u011funu belirten Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n k\u0131sa s\u00fcrede hangi ebeveynin hangi konuda izin verece\u011fini \u00f6\u011frendi\u011fini s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n Anne ve baban\u0131n temel aile kurallar\u0131 konusunda ortak hareket etmesinin \u00f6nemine dikkat \u00e7eken Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m, \u201cAyn\u0131 \u015feylere evet veya hay\u0131r diyebilmemiz laz\u0131m\u201d ifadelerini kulland\u0131.<\/p>\n Aile kurallar\u0131 net olmal\u0131<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n zaman zaman \u201cArkada\u015f\u0131m\u0131n annesi izin veriyor\u201d veya \u201cArkada\u015f\u0131m bunu yap\u0131yor\u201d gibi ifadelerle ebeveynlerin kararlar\u0131n\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fabilece\u011fini belirten Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m, her ailenin kendine ait kurallar\u0131n\u0131n bulundu\u011funun k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015flardan itibaren anlat\u0131lmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n Ebeveynlerin kendi aralar\u0131nda s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131 netle\u015ftirmesi ve \u00e7ocu\u011fa kar\u015f\u0131 ortak bir yakla\u015f\u0131m sergilemesinin daha sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir ileti\u015fim ortam\u0131 olu\u015fturaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 vurgulad\u0131.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Uzmanlar, sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 anne-baba-\u00e7ocuk ili\u015fkisinde sevginin yan\u0131 s\u0131ra g\u00fcvenli ba\u011flanma, \u00e7ocu\u011fa s\u00f6z hakk\u0131 verilmesi, ya\u015f\u0131na uygun sorumluluk kazand\u0131r\u0131lmas\u0131 ve ebeveynlerin ortak tutum sergilemesinin b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00f6nem ta\u015f\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 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