A\u015fk ac\u0131s\u0131, yaln\u0131zca yo\u011fun bir \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fc olarak ya\u015fanm\u0131yor. Uzmanlara g\u00f6re romantik ili\u015fkinin sona ermesi, beyin taraf\u0131ndan \u00f6nemli bir kay\u0131p olarak alg\u0131lan\u0131yor ve baz\u0131 ki\u015filerde fiziksel a\u011fr\u0131ya benzer belirtilerin ortaya \u00e7\u0131kmas\u0131na neden olabiliyor.<\/p>\n
\u00dcsk\u00fcdar \u00dcniversitesi NP\u0130STANBUL Hastanesi Klinik Psikolo\u011fu \u015eule Ata\u015f, a\u015fk ac\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n beyinde ve psikolojide nas\u0131l i\u015flendi\u011fine, ayr\u0131l\u0131k sonras\u0131ndaki yas s\u00fcrecine ve iyile\u015fmeyi zorla\u015ft\u0131ran davran\u0131\u015flara ili\u015fkin de\u011ferlendirmelerde bulundu.<\/p>\n
A\u015fk ac\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n yaln\u0131zca duygusal bir \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fc olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 belirten Ata\u015f, bunun psikolojik ve biyolojik y\u00f6nleri bulunan bir kay\u0131p s\u00fcreci oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n
Romantik ili\u015fki i\u00e7erisinde sevilen ki\u015finin zamanla hayat\u0131n \u00f6nemli bir par\u00e7as\u0131 h\u00e2line geldi\u011fini ifade eden Ata\u015f, g\u00fcven duygusunun, g\u00fcnl\u00fck al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar\u0131n ve gelece\u011fe ili\u015fkin planlar\u0131n ili\u015fki etraf\u0131nda \u015fekillenebildi\u011fini kaydetti.<\/p>\n
Ata\u015f, ayr\u0131l\u0131k ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131nda beynin bu durumu \u00f6nemli bir kay\u0131p olarak de\u011ferlendirdi\u011fini belirterek, fiziksel a\u011fr\u0131 s\u0131ras\u0131nda etkinle\u015fen baz\u0131 beyin b\u00f6lgelerinin yo\u011fun duygusal ac\u0131 ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131nda da devreye girebildi\u011fini aktard\u0131.<\/p>\n
Ayr\u0131l\u0131k sonras\u0131nda baz\u0131 ki\u015filerin bo\u011faz\u0131nda d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcmlenme, mide rahats\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131, uykusuzluk ve i\u015ftahs\u0131zl\u0131k ya\u015fayabilece\u011fini belirten Ata\u015f, ki\u015finin ger\u00e7ekten fiziksel olarak can\u0131 yan\u0131yormu\u015f gibi hissedebilece\u011fini s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n
Ya\u015fanan ac\u0131n\u0131n \u015fiddetini yaln\u0131zca ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n kendisinin belirlemedi\u011fini vurgulayan Ata\u015f, ayr\u0131l\u0131k sonras\u0131nda zihinden ge\u00e7en d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerin de s\u00fcreci \u00f6nemli \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcde etkiledi\u011fini ifade etti.<\/p>\n
\u201cBir daha mutlu olamayaca\u011f\u0131m\u201d, \u201cKimse beni onun kadar sevemeyecek\u201d veya \u201cOnsuz hayat\u0131m\u0131n anlam\u0131 kalmad\u0131\u201d gibi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerin kay\u0131p hissini daha yo\u011fun h\u00e2le getirebildi\u011fini kaydetti.<\/p>\n
Ayr\u0131l\u0131k sonras\u0131nda ya\u015fanan ac\u0131y\u0131 tamamen ortadan kald\u0131racak sihirli bir y\u00f6ntemin bulunmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 belirten Ata\u015f, biten ili\u015fkinin ard\u0131ndan zihnin ve duygular\u0131n yeni duruma uyum sa\u011flayabilmek i\u00e7in zamana ihtiya\u00e7 duydu\u011funu s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n
Ata\u015f, ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n yaln\u0131zca bir ki\u015finin hayattan \u00e7\u0131kmas\u0131 anlam\u0131na gelmedi\u011fini, ayn\u0131 zamanda g\u00fcnl\u00fck d\u00fczenin, gelece\u011fe ili\u015fkin planlar\u0131n ve ki\u015finin kendisiyle ilgili baz\u0131 inan\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131n da de\u011fi\u015fmesi anlam\u0131na geldi\u011fini ifade etti.<\/p>\n
Bu nedenle \u00f6zlemek, \u00fcz\u00fclmek ve a\u011flamak gibi tepkilerin yas s\u00fcrecinin do\u011fal par\u00e7alar\u0131 oldu\u011funa dikkat \u00e7ekti.<\/p>\n
A\u015fk ac\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n istenen bir deneyim olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ancak psikolojik a\u00e7\u0131dan \u00f6nemli bir i\u015flev ta\u015f\u0131yabilece\u011fini belirten Ata\u015f, ayr\u0131l\u0131k s\u00fcrecinin ki\u015fiye ili\u015fkiyi de\u011ferlendirme f\u0131rsat\u0131 sunabilece\u011fini s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n
Ki\u015finin ili\u015fkide iyi giden ve y\u0131prat\u0131c\u0131 olan noktalar\u0131, kendi ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131, s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131 ve ili\u015fki kurma bi\u00e7imini daha a\u00e7\u0131k g\u00f6rebilece\u011fini ifade eden Ata\u015f, \u015f\u00f6yle konu\u015ftu:<\/p>\n
\u201cE\u011fer ayr\u0131l\u0131k s\u00fcreci yaln\u0131zca kar\u015f\u0131 taraf\u0131 su\u00e7layarak, duygulardan ka\u00e7arak veya ac\u0131y\u0131 bast\u0131rmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015farak ge\u00e7irilirse benzer ili\u015fki \u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fclerinin tekrarlanma riski artabilir. Buna kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k ya\u015fanan deneyim sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bi\u00e7imde de\u011ferlendirilebilirse ki\u015fi duygusal dayan\u0131kl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 art\u0131rabilir ve gelecekte daha sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ili\u015fkiler kurabilir.\u201d<\/p>\n
Ata\u015f, as\u0131l amac\u0131n ac\u0131 \u00e7ekmek de\u011fil, ya\u015fananlar\u0131 anlamland\u0131rarak bu deneyimden \u00f6\u011frenebilmek oldu\u011funu vurgulad\u0131.<\/p>\n
Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 yas s\u00fcrecinin ac\u0131y\u0131 yok saymak veya bast\u0131rmak anlam\u0131na gelmedi\u011fini belirten Ata\u015f, ki\u015finin duygular\u0131 nedeniyle hayat\u0131n\u0131n tamamen durmas\u0131na izin vermemesi gerekti\u011fini s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n
G\u00fcnl\u00fck rutinleri s\u00fcrd\u00fcrebilmenin, sosyal ili\u015fkilerden tamamen kopmaman\u0131n ve ki\u015fiye iyi gelen faaliyetlere devam etmenin iyile\u015fme s\u00fcrecini destekleyebilece\u011fini dile getirdi.<\/p>\n
Ayr\u0131l\u0131k sonras\u0131nda zihnin ili\u015fkinin yaln\u0131zca g\u00fczel anlar\u0131n\u0131 hat\u0131rlamaya e\u011filimli olabildi\u011fine dikkat \u00e7eken Ata\u015f, sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 iyile\u015fme i\u00e7in ili\u015fkinin hem olumlu hem de zorlay\u0131c\u0131 y\u00f6nlerinin birlikte de\u011ferlendirilmesi gerekti\u011fini ifade etti.<\/p>\n
Ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n ard\u0131ndan eski partnerin sosyal medya hesaplar\u0131n\u0131 s\u00fcrekli kontrol etmenin veya ileti\u015fim kurmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fman\u0131n iyile\u015fmeyi zorla\u015ft\u0131rabildi\u011fini belirten Ata\u015f, her profil kontrol\u00fcn\u00fcn zihni yeniden o ki\u015fiye y\u00f6nlendirdi\u011fini s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n
Bu davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n alt\u0131nda yaln\u0131zca merak de\u011fil, belirsizli\u011fi azaltma, \u00f6zlemi hafifletme veya ili\u015fkinin yeniden ba\u015flayaca\u011f\u0131na dair umut aray\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131n da bulunabilece\u011fini aktaran Ata\u015f, k\u0131sa s\u00fcreli rahatlaman\u0131n kal\u0131c\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131na dikkat \u00e7ekti.<\/p>\n
S\u00fcrekli kontrol etme davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131n zamanla bir d\u00f6ng\u00fcye d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015febilece\u011fini belirten Ata\u015f, beynin yeni duruma uyum sa\u011flayabilmesi i\u00e7in dikkatin g\u00fcnl\u00fck ya\u015fama, yeni deneyimlere ve sosyal ili\u015fkilere y\u00f6nlendirilmesini \u00f6nerdi.<\/p>\n
Baz\u0131 ki\u015filerin ayr\u0131l\u0131k sonras\u0131nda ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bo\u015fluk, yaln\u0131zl\u0131k ve \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fc nedeniyle alkol, a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 yeme, kontrols\u00fcz al\u0131\u015fveri\u015f, kumar veya farkl\u0131 d\u00fcrt\u00fcsel davran\u0131\u015flara y\u00f6nelebildi\u011fini kaydeden Ata\u015f, bunun herkes i\u00e7in ge\u00e7erli olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n
Riskin ki\u015finin stresle ba\u015f etme becerisine, daha \u00f6nce benzer davran\u0131\u015flarda bulunup bulunmad\u0131\u011f\u0131na ve ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 duygusal y\u00fck\u00fcn \u015fiddetine g\u00f6re de\u011fi\u015fti\u011fini belirten Ata\u015f, bu davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n ortak amac\u0131n\u0131n ac\u0131dan k\u0131sa s\u00fcreli\u011fine uzakla\u015fmak oldu\u011funu ifade etti.<\/p>\n
Ge\u00e7ici rahatlama sa\u011flayan davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n duygusal sorunu \u00e7\u00f6zmedi\u011fini vurgulayan Ata\u015f, ac\u0131n\u0131n ertelenmesine ve ayn\u0131 duygular ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ki\u015finin yeniden ayn\u0131 davran\u0131\u015flara y\u00f6nelmesine neden olabilece\u011fini s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n
Ayr\u0131l\u0131k sonras\u0131nda as\u0131l hedefin ac\u0131y\u0131 m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olan en k\u0131sa s\u00fcrede ortadan kald\u0131rmak olmamas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini belirten Ata\u015f, ya\u015fanan duygular\u0131n kabul edilerek onlarla sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bi\u00e7imde ba\u015f etmeyi \u00f6\u011frenmenin \u00f6nemine dikkat \u00e7ekti.<\/p>\n
Ata\u015f, \u201c\u0130yile\u015fme zaman al\u0131r. Ancak bu s\u00fcre\u00e7 do\u011fru \u015fekilde ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ki\u015fi hem kendisini hem de ili\u015fki kurma bi\u00e7imini daha iyi tan\u0131yabilir ve gelecekte daha sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ili\u015fkiler geli\u015ftirebilir\u201d de\u011ferlendirmesinde bulundu.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Klinik Psikolog \u015eule Ata\u015f, ayr\u0131l\u0131k sonras\u0131nda ya\u015fanan a\u015fk ac\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n yaln\u0131zca duygusal bir \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fc olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, psikolojik ve biyolojik y\u00f6nleri bulunan do\u011fal bir yas s\u00fcreci oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yledi. Ata\u015f, eski partneri sosyal medyadan takip etmenin duygusal ba\u011f\u0131 canl\u0131 tutabildi\u011fini, alkol ve a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 yeme gibi ge\u00e7ici rahatlama davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n ise sorunu \u00e7\u00f6zmedi\u011fini belirtti.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":6,"featured_media":41047,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[11],"tags":[13312,2542],"class_list":["post-41046","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-yasam","tag-ask-acisi","tag-sosyal-medya"],"yoast_head":"\n