\u0130nsan\u0131n sessizli\u011fi \u00e7o\u011fu zaman yanl\u0131\u015f anla\u015f\u0131l\u0131r. D\u0131\u015far\u0131dan bak\u0131nca ileti\u015fim kurmak istemiyor san\u0131l\u0131r; oysa \u00e7o\u011fu insan, s\u00f6yleyecek s\u00f6z\u00fc olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in de\u011fil, s\u00f6zlerinin ruhunu tam ta\u015f\u0131yamayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 fark etti\u011fi i\u00e7in susar. \u0130nsan bazen kelimelere g\u00fcvenir, bazen de kelimelerin kendisini yar\u0131 yolda b\u0131rakaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hisseder. Bu y\u00fczden suskunluk, ki\u015fisel bir protesto de\u011fil; zamanla \u00f6\u011frenilen bir savunma bi\u00e7imidir. \u0130\u00e7 d\u00fcnyada olu\u015fan k\u0131r\u0131lganl\u0131\u011f\u0131n d\u0131\u015f y\u00fczeye yans\u0131mayan ama hep varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hissettiren en derin izidir.<\/p>\n
En ilgin\u00e7 olan ise yaln\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n kalabal\u0131\u011f\u0131n i\u00e7inde de\u011fil, \u201ctam \u015fimdi anla\u015f\u0131l\u0131yorum\u201d sand\u0131\u011f\u0131n anda ortaya \u00e7\u0131kmas\u0131d\u0131r. Psikolojinin \u201cduygusal hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131\u201d, sosyolojinin \u201cbenlik \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmas\u0131\u201d dedi\u011fi o an, ger\u00e7ek ile tasavvurun \u00e7arp\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 yerdir. \u0130nsan, kendisini dinledi\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc ki\u015filerin bile asl\u0131nda kendi bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 i\u00e7inden s\u00f6zleri s\u00fczd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc fark eder. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc her insan\u0131n zihninde bir filtre vard\u0131r; seni de\u011fil, seni kendi alg\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n izin verdi\u011fi kadar g\u00f6r\u00fcr. Bu nedenle yanl\u0131\u015f anla\u015f\u0131lmak, hi\u00e7 anla\u015f\u0131lmamaktan daha a\u011f\u0131r bir y\u00fck b\u0131rak\u0131r insana.<\/p>\n
Zamanla insan \u015funu kavrar: Hi\u00e7 kimse seni b\u00fct\u00fcn\u00fcyle \u00e7\u00f6zemeyecek. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n zihninde senin i\u00e7in ayr\u0131lm\u0131\u015f oda hi\u00e7bir zaman tam senin d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn gibi olmayacak. Herkes, bir insan\u0131 anlamakta kendi deneyimlerinin, kendi k\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131n ve kendi s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131n rehberli\u011fine mahk\u00fbmdur. Bu y\u00fczden \u201cb\u00fct\u00fcn y\u00f6nlerinle g\u00f6r\u00fclme\u201d arzusu, \u00e7o\u011fu kez hayal\u00ee bir taleptir.<\/p>\n
Ancak \u00f6nemli olan, bu fark\u0131ndal\u0131\u011f\u0131n insanda bir k\u0131r\u0131lma de\u011fil, bir olgunla\u015fma yaratmas\u0131d\u0131r. Anla\u015f\u0131lma iste\u011fini tamamen b\u0131rakmak de\u011fil mesele; anla\u015f\u0131lmadan da kendini var sayabilmektir. Kendi i\u00e7 de\u011ferini, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n bak\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6lgesine mahk\u00fbm etmeden y\u00fcr\u00fcyebilmektir.<\/p>\n
Bu noktaya gelindi\u011finde, insan\u0131n i\u00e7indeki o bitmek bilmeyen u\u011fultu yava\u015f\u00e7a durulur. Fakat bu s\u00fck\u00fbnet, huzurdan \u00e7ok bir kabulleni\u015f h\u00e2lidir. Kendini saklamadan, kendini oldu\u011fundan b\u00fcy\u00fck g\u00f6stermeden, yaln\u0131zca \u201coldu\u011fu gibi\u201d kalma cesaretidir bu.<\/p>\n
Sonunda insan anlar ki ger\u00e7ek \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck, birilerinin seni anlamas\u0131yla de\u011fil, senin, anla\u015f\u0131lmasan bile eksilmeyece\u011fini bilmenle ba\u015flar.<\/p>\n
Ve i\u015fte o an, hayat sana tek bir ger\u00e7e\u011fi f\u0131s\u0131ldar: \u201cBa\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n de\u011fil, kendi aynan\u0131n \u0131\u015f\u0131\u011f\u0131yla var ol.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
\u0130nsan\u0131n sessizli\u011fi \u00e7o\u011fu zaman yanl\u0131\u015f anla\u015f\u0131l\u0131r. D\u0131\u015far\u0131dan bak\u0131nca ileti\u015fim kurmak istemiyor san\u0131l\u0131r; oysa \u00e7o\u011fu insan, s\u00f6yleyecek s\u00f6z\u00fc olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in de\u011fil, s\u00f6zlerinin ruhunu tam ta\u015f\u0131yamayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 fark etti\u011fi i\u00e7in susar. \u0130nsan bazen kelimelere g\u00fcvenir, bazen de kelimelerin kendisini yar\u0131 yolda b\u0131rakaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hisseder. Bu y\u00fczden suskunluk, ki\u015fisel bir protesto de\u011fil; zamanla \u00f6\u011frenilen bir savunma bi\u00e7imidir. \u0130\u00e7 d\u00fcnyada olu\u015fan […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":10622,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[22],"tags":[87,5764],"class_list":["post-15918","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-kose-yazilari","tag-koseyazisi","tag-serifebozoglaneker"],"yoast_head":"\n